I have a very nice boyfriend and very nice sex. Only he is quite big and we both like hard sex. Especially at the end of the lovemaking it can get very hard. We also sometimes start when I’m not completely wet yet. At least at the beginning the vagina. This is sensitive but immediately makes me want more. Actually nothing is wrong and we can really enjoy each other. I just wonder if it could damage my vagina. Sometimes I even feel like we’ve had sex all day long. It doesn’t hurt but it sometimes feels a bit rough and when I sit down or something I feel it. This is not a problem for me, I like to be reminded of the sex myself, but you sometimes hear stories that hurt a woman. I don’t think I need to worry but just want to make sure.
Anonymously
Henriëtte Schoones, sexologist
The vagina can indeed be damaged by vaginal dryness if you act too quickly. If you are not yet sufficiently excited, irritation may occur at the beginning of the vagina.
Most women then suffer from a burning or stinging sensation. I assume that you are otherwise healthy because this complaint can also occur with diabetes, endometriosis and kidney disease. Certain medicines can also cause these complaints, such as antidepressants.
At some point, pain may arise during intercourse. Many women end up in a vicious circle when they start making love again, they strain the pelvic floor muscles on and makes penetration even more difficult. Your partner is big-boned so you should already be optimally relaxed to easily enter your home. It’s important that you take the time to get aroused and sometimes without penetration, so it’s not always predictable.
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