More than a sexual deviance, perversion is a desire to enjoy without limit at the expense of the other without worrying about his feelings, even if seduction is used to establish a tyrannical relationship.
Favored by ultra-liberal societies and the rise in unemployment, which makes people dependent on their jobs, perverse behaviors are developing.
Perversion has long been seen as sexual deviance. However, sexuality is no longer the only area where perverse behavior is exercised. Perversion is more generally a “perverse behavior”, sometimes violent, which can be exercised by manipulators or harassers encountered at work, in family or in friendly relations.
What characterizes perverse behavior?
Perversion is manifested by the desire to satisfy one’s desires and to enjoy without limits by using the other according to one’s own pleasure. The pervert does not tolerate frustration and he always manages to deny the realities that bother him. He thinks he is allowed everything and imagines himself more important than he is. Even if he knows that he mistreats and that he makes others suffer, only his desire matters to him. The victim of a pervert must conform to his expectations.
How to recognize a perverse person?
Some particular behaviors and characteristics should attract attention:
• The total absence of empathy: the pervert does not care about the feelings and the suffering of the other,
• The tendency to take action and transgression: the pervert seeks at all costs to obtain the social status or the human being or the object he covets as quickly as possible,
• Manipulation: the major instrument of the pervert is not the whip but the language he uses as a virtuoso to persuade, deceive, mock or humiliate.
A pervert does not care about the feelings or the suffering of others in general, and especially of his victim. He makes it a point of honor to immediately obtain what he covets by using all possible means, be it humiliation, deception or persuasion.
How to react to a pervert?
When it comes to taming his victim, the pervert can become attentive and seductive. However, like a tyrannical little child, when his victim decides to leave, the pervert loses his means and uses all his cruelty to make his “toy” feel guilty and return.
At work, perverse behavior is close to harassment: devaluation of work, unattainable goals, derogatory remarks about the time spent in the toilet…
Without sinking into paranoia and believing oneself the prey of a dangerous manipulator at the slightest conflict, in case of doubt about real perverse behavior, it is important not to “victimize” yourself, but to assert yourself while protecting your privacy. .
A psychologist or psychiatrist can also help to better identify them and protect themselves.
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