Since baby, the cuddles have been spaced out. Is it hormonal or shrink?
Probably bothâ ????! On the hormonal level, pregnancy and childbirth have been major upheavals and hormones are in free fall, which can cause vaginal dryness in particular. Add to that the fatigue (difficult childbirth, restless nights, crying baby, breastfeeding), the stress associated with birth and its flood of new responsibilities, the scars ofEpisiotomy or cesarean section, organizational difficulties, new rhythms to take according to baby’s, lack of time … All this does not promote sexual desire…!
How to reconnect with a thrilling sexualityâ ?????
Don’t beat yourself up. The decrease in libido is nor-ma-leâ ????! All your friends with kids will tell you. If you don’t believe it, go to the discussion forums between young mothers, they will convince you that you are really not the only one in this case!
Multiply the moments of intimacy
With your companion, but without your newborn. It can just be an outing, a movie theater, a restaurant, a walk that helps bring you closer. It is important that the young daddy don’t feel excluded, but on the contrary that he still sees himself existing in your eyes, just like your couple.
Silence your fears of hurting
Even your partner, who is eager to resume sex, will listen to your feelings if you gently explain your fears to him. Have confidence in him … and in yourself…!
Make peace with your body
Even if he has not yet found his old line, and is still marked by pregnancy, he has given you the most beautiful gift, so thank him and do not see him as an enemy. You have to accept this new body, knowing that it takes several months for it to fully recover. As the saying goes, it takes nine months to make a baby, and another nine months to find the body from before … which will not be quite the same. Pamper itâ €: firming and moisturizing body care, new haircut, makeup. And don’t focus on your flaws! Also remember not to wear your pregnancy clothes, even if you are still plump… this stage is over, you are now a young mother who must reconnect with seduction, as much for you as for your companionâ ????!
Talk to your companion
He may have trouble understanding the reasons for your lack of desire or your fears. If you don’t talk to him and he feels like you are avoiding reconciliations, you will only increase his misunderstanding and risk the situation getting out of hand, everyone wallowing in. his thoughts. On the contrary, remain tender but speak frankly, and do not hesitate to ask him to give you a little more time …
Do you calm down
Even without penetration if it still scares you, treat yourself to real moments of sensuality for two: caresses, kisses, massages help maintain your privacy. Do not avoid carnal relationships, to maintain this link between you, it will help you to pass the course naturally, without premeditation and therefore, with less anxiety.
Talk to your doctor if your lack of sexual desire becomes a problem, or if you feel depressed, sad, with persistent urges to cry and the feeling of not being successful in your success. Mom’s Island: The baby blues is a reality for some women and deserves to be tracked … and treated.