A questionnaire put online by the collective #Noustoutes shows that sexual consent is still an abstract subject for many.
Nine out of ten women have already been pressured into having sex. This alarming figure, which results from a vast survey called #JaiPasDitOui and posted online by the collective #Noustoutes, proves that the subject of sexual consent is not addressed enough.
“Frigid”, “stuck”, “not normal”, “boring”
This questionnaire was completed by 96,600 women aged 15 to 75 (75% were under 35 and 42% under 25). More than a third of them (36.5%) say that a partner has allowed himself to perform a sexual act on them, without their consent. One woman out of 6 admits that her first intercourse was neither desired nor consented to: 36.5% of them underwent this first forced intercourse before the age of 15. The responses also show that women who begin their sexual life with an unwanted and consensual relationship are much more often confronted with violence in their sexual life.
9 out of 10 women say they have experienced pressure to have sex.
For 88% of them, it happened several times. pic.twitter.com/AMyWAebymz— #WeAll (@WeAllOrg) March 3, 2020
According to The report, 74.6% of respondents have already asked to stop a sexual relationship in progress. For 38.2% of these respondents, it happened that the relationship continued despite their request to stop. In total, this represents 27% of respondents. The survey also shows that 70% of women have already forced themselves to have sex when they did not want to, some “to please him” and 25% of them because ‘they thought the problem was theirs. Among the respondents, 49.1% confirm having already been devalued and/or verbally humiliated because they refused a sexual relationship (“frigid”, “stuck”, “not normal”, “boring”).
49.1% of respondents said they had already heard demeaning remarks about the fact that they did not want to have sex (“frigid”, “stuck”, “not normal”, “boring”) pic.twitter.com/ui6RUTtjgS
— #WeAll (@WeAllOrg) March 3, 2020
A necessary awareness
Responding to this questionnaire aroused strong emotions among Internet users. “By answering ‘yes’ to certain questions, I realized that they had never been asked of me, that I lived, during the first fifty years of my life, facts without having said ‘yes’. Totally unaware that I was in a position to have an opinion”, commented one of the respondents on condition of anonymity. “This survey is a real revealer”, adds another.
“This quiz showed how what we might think is normal really isn’t.”. “This survey shows how important this subject is for women”comments to France info feminist activist Caroline De Haas.
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