Films can revive fantasies and stimulate desire. More and more women are using this means to improve their sex life.
90% of teenagers have already seen pornographic images or films, but they don’t have the perspective necessary to tell the difference with “real” life. Talking about sexuality in general is a good way to then approach pornography. As an adult, watching movies occasionally can rekindle fantasies and stimulate desire. On the other hand, when the viewing of films counts more than the pleasure exchanged with one’s partner, this can lead to addiction. And in this case, it is better to consult.
Interview with Dr. Sylvain Mimoungynecologist and specialist in sexuality (1).
Dr. Sylvain Mimoun : For the past two or three years, more and more couples, and in particular women, have been using this method. They identified which were the sites where there could be free movies or not. And from time to time, with a clear head, they ask their spouse to watch a pornographic film together. Some women say they didn’t really want to, but they knew they would have sex with their spouse, so they watched a movie that turned them on and they were able to have sex easier. We must not forget that the film will revive fantasies. The fantasy is a caress of the mind that will allow you to start from very high on the scale of excitement, and the excitement being stronger, the sexual relations go much better.
But isn’t this a way to hide the couple’s problems?
Dr. Sylvain Mimoun : The fact of not having desire from time to time is a problem, I don’t think so. It is a problem if the non-desire persists for a long time. In medicine, we speak of chronicity beyond six months. Any man or woman can experience moments of hollow because we are preoccupied with something else, because we are physically or mentally tired and in these moments, we do not particularly want. Watching a movie or even telling a fantasy story can then become a sexual game, which will stimulate and induce pleasure in both partners.
Interview with Sandrine Chauvard
(1) Author of several books, including “heart side, sex side: the ABC of happiness for two”, co-written with Rica Etienne and published by Albin Michel editions.
