How do you deal with heartbreak?

With a broken relationship, everything falls apart. Your future is going to look very different without your partner. But also your past. Apparently you lived in a lie, because your sweetheart doesn’t love you at all. Not only do you feel the pain of the loss, your ego also takes a big dent. In addition, you are confronted with being alone. Not everyone can handle that well.

stress

In heartbreak, you go through different phases: denial, anger, sadness, letting go and acceptance. These phases can go hand in hand. Sometimes you suddenly seem back to square one.

Don’t lie on the couch with a box of tissues. Get moving. This is a natural way for your body to get rid of stress and it also releases positive substances such as serotonin into your blood. This will immediately make you feel a lot better.

Pattern Break

Heartbreak happens to you. But part of it you maintain yourself, by continuing to think about them. You keep saying certain things to yourself that you find very painful. You cannot change the situation and the other, but you can change how you think!

Make sure you get different patterns than when you were in a relationship. Think of it as a great opportunity to do things you’ve always wanted to do. Start exercising or that hobby you never got around to.

Change small things in your home; where the TV or a particular chair is located. Make sure that your living environment no longer resembles the situation when you were with the other person. If necessary, change your shampoo. This will break your old pattern and associations with your ex.

Don’t kneel. The longer you do that, the harder it is to get your life back on track. Go out, meet up with old friends, do things. Even when you really don’t feel like it. Not to meet a new love, but to see that there is more to the world than just your ex. Gather friends around you, see that people still love you.

lucky substance

Now that your future plans have been jettisoned, you have the opportunity to invent new ones. Invent an alternative future; in which you are happy and well over your ex.

Try to come up with all kinds of details; what do you look like, what do you do in a day, where do you live? Feel how satisfied and happy you would be. Even if you don’t believe in it, your body will still get a tremendous boost.

Your body reacts to everything you do. Even if you put on a smiling face, your brain will notice. They register that you use your laughing muscles, conclude that you must be happy and make substances that make you happy.

Even though laughing is probably the last thing on your mind right now, try it anyway. If necessary, laugh at the fact that you are trying to laugh. It will make you feel more comfortable.

Avoid pitfalls

Children prefer to play with toys that are difficult to get hold of. They always want to color with the marker that another child just had. Unfortunately, it works the same way with adults. Your ex becomes that unreachable marker. You already want him back, but if your ex has a new crush, it becomes an even more desirable toy. Be aware of that.

Then a few more pitfalls. Ideally you would like to straighten everything out. That you are really right. And that the other one was wrong. But the chances are slim that you will be right; you broke up for a reason. It is better to accept the situation as it is.

Or you are trying to hurt or make your ex-lover jealous. In effect, this is continuing the relationship, but with negative feelings instead of positive ones.

Even worse; you have sex with your ex. This can lead to a lot of complications. You’re the one heartbroken here, your ex-partner probably doesn’t feel that way. If you just want sex, you better find someone else.