Couple: preserve a part of mystery
You want this man to know everything about you, to meet your parents, your friends, your ex… You tell him about your professional setbacks… Stop there! This man is not your best friend… The male gender does not appreciate “chatting”, nor that we “tickle” his natural jealousy. And there are lots of things he doesn’t want to know about you. So, be more discreet about your “before” life. It will be secretly enhanced. As if you hadn’t existed before meeting him.
In bed, be patient
In movies, the “very first time” is often a revelation and leaves the imprint of an unforgettable embrace. In real life, this is not systematic! Are you both disappointed with your performance? Don’t fret about “what did you do that didn’t work”. You don’t know the whole past of the man you met. Love story that ends badly, shyness, anxiety about not being up to this new relationship… so many reasons that may explain why he may have been clumsy, too eager or not enough… Build your intimacy , take your time to discover his body and make him discover yours…
Be clear with yourself
What do you expect from this story? A good time, an adventure or a “for life” guarantee? In this case, are you ready to invest in your relationship? To change, if necessary, to adapt to the other? Because to succeed in this challenge that is the romantic relationship, you will have to put a brake on your ego. It doesn’t mean denying your personality, or locking up your desires, but compromising. Will you be able to “compose” with his character, his qualities but also his faults and his quirks? This is an essential question to ask yourself, if you really want a lasting relationship.
Couple: forget the past, live the present!
Learn from your past
No question of starting a new story without having finished with the previous one. Do you still have regrets? You have not “digested” the end of your old relationship? Don’t think you can heal simply by changing lovers. Instead, wait until you are psychologically ready, available, even if it means offering yourself a few sessions with a shrink, to help you “take out” what is on your mind and analyze it together. Doing a complete review of your romantic “curriculum vitae” will help you start a new relationship on the right footing. It may not save you from repeat the same mistakes.
Enjoy the present moment
Still single, you suffer from your situation and dream only of a sweet home animated by a string of children… Beware! Nothing like scaring off a man with all his legs. Because, if your friend understands that you see in him, not a lover, but a spouse or a parent, he will panic. Put aside your urges, and stop gamberger… You could fall from above! Childhood desire is rarely visceral in humans. Over time, he may be the first to address the issue. Take advantage of the present moment, of this wonderful couple relationship that you create day after day.
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