Parents’ self-confidence creates a stable and secure environment for the child.
All parents feel doubts about their abilities to raise their child. It is therefore natural to sometimes wonder if we are doing things right. However, confidence in your skills as a parent is one of the keys to raising a child peacefully.
Be a role model for your child
The way in which parents perceive themselves directly influences the confidence that the child develops in himself. When a parent feels competent and satisfied with their role, they are better able to pass on positive practices to their child for better management of their emotions and challenges.
On the contrary, a parent who continually doubts his or her abilities risks creating a climate of uncertainty, which can slow down the child’s emotional development. The example given to one’s child therefore has a scope far beyond everyday actions.
Communication and support to build trust
Parental self-confidence is not built alone. She is greatly influenced by those around her and external support. Dialogue within the couple, in particular, plays a fundamental role.
Exchanging your experiences, your doubts and your successes allows you to put things into perspective and learn from others. Talking with other parents, even informally, helps you get advice, but also helps you realize that you are not alone with your questions.
A driving force of kindness towards oneself and one’s child
Having self-confidence does not mean being a perfect parent, far from it. Above all, it is about accepting that mistakes are part of learning, both for parents and for children. Accepting it allows you to release the pressure and adopt a kind attitude towards yourself.
By allowing themselves moments of imperfection, parents learn to adjust their practices as situations change with their child. Overloading yourself with responsibilities or striving for perfection risks leading to burnout, which will inevitably impact the relationship. On the other hand, taking care of your well-being and giving yourself some respite will create a much warmer and more reassuring environment for your child.
Find out more: “Promote your child’s self-confidence” by Florence Millot.
