How about we stop complaining?

Honestly, what do you think of people who keep complaining all the time? Do you really want to spend more time with them to listen to their whining and comfort them? However, there are advantages to stopping complaining…

Want to be happier? Start by stopping complaining! It’s a simple way to attract more happiness into your life, show more gratitude, and smile to the world without forcing yourself.

In addition, it’s free and it requires no help from fate or those around him. Just the will to change and the courage to try. It is a philosophy of life positive effects guaranteed !

Complaining is a vicious cycle

By stopping complaining, you will focus less on the distressing aspects of your environment. The complaint is charged withnegative emotions.

When you complain, you channel your life energy into things that aren’t worth it. You influence your thoughts which immediately translate the message into increased stress. The vicious circle then begins.

Not only does this harm you, but in addition, by repercussion, it creates a harmful climate for those around you. Don’t stop complaining feeds pessimism. For example, when someone complains of not being in good shape, he will feel more tired, but those around him, too, will eventually convince themselves that he is at the end of his rope, on the brink of burnout. out.

In addition, the complaint has an addictive side. It is a solution of ease for the mind who ends up getting used to it. The more negative thoughts are fed to it, the more insistently it asks for them.

Neurons even go so far as to steer us insidiously toward bad news, just to find additional opportunities to complain. We thus gradually transform into being frankly “toxic” for others….

Why do we complain?

Generally, we complain either to attract attentioneither for express pain. Some think that complaining is the only way to to change things. In reality, complaining above all paralyzes the move to action. It’s true… While you’re busy complaining, things don’t change.

Some people also tend to indulge in a victim role and, through masochistic behavior, to voluntarily let the situation deteriorate to be able to continue complaining quietly.

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In the eyes of those around them, those who constantly complain become people who always have something wrong. People then end up seeing you as a be toxic who tends to drag others down. As a result, they rightly turn away from you.

In the worst case, you even end up falling into paranoia and feeling like everyone is ganging up on you.

Besides, not stopping complaining is a bit deny one’s responsibility systematically unloading it on the backs of others. Isn’t your ambition to take full responsibility for your life?

Help someone stop complaining

If you are looking to help someone who constantly complains, the first thing to do is to take the time to listen to them and try to figure out what’s wrong.

This step can sometimes be enough. But in some cases, you have to react more firmly and say to the person complaining: “ I can listen to you and make efforts. But it’s up to you to find solutions to your problems…”

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This parade puts the person face to face with themselves, showing them that they cannot vent their frustration on you indefinitely. This tactic often hits the mark: either the person will complain with someone elseor she realizes thata change in behavior is necessary to maintain a relationship with you.

Often good things happen to people who smile to life. By mirror effect, your negative experiences let you anticipate other unpleasant moments for the future. And you expect them so much that they eventually happen.

If you are concerned

If you feel personally concerned, here’s what you can do to get out of it. First of all, take full responsibility issues that are the source of your complaints:

• If I’m unhappy, it’s because I always see the glass half empty.
• If I don’t like my current situation, it’s up to me to change it.
• If I want something, it’s up to me to put myself in a position to get it.
• If something bothers me, it’s up to me to find an acceptable solution.
• If I want the presence of certain people around me, it’s up to me to seduce them.

Do not blame yourself for having negative thoughts, it will put you in a situation even more unfavorable. Blaming yourself reinforces the negative pattern you find yourself in.

Start by admitting that these behaviors and these thoughts exist, but they no longer correspond to the person you are today. By avoiding identifying yourself with your complaints, you will make them pass from the domain of the unconscious to that of the conscious, a space on which you have a real possibility of acting.

Don’t try to get rid of the thoughts that are causing your complaints either. Instead, learn to live with them, while knowing how to master them. Make sure to create a climate in which these thoughts coexist with your personalitywithout being dominant.

The next time you catch yourself complaining, be pragmatic and ask yourself how you can change things. Take the bull by the horns, take action and do your best to influence your life positively.

If it works, then you will naturally decide to stop complaining once and for all. Otherwise, you will have at least offered a few weeks of respite to all those around you (and subject to you).