We define charisma as the ability to seduce and fascinate others. It is a valuable quality in social interactions, but also to get what you want and pull others in its wake. In short, it is an asset that we would all like to have. Fortunately, we can all increase our charisma …
Charisma is not a magic power, it is a skill that can be learned with practice and experience. So how can you increase your charisma?
What does being charismatic mean?
We define charisma as the quality of a person who manages to seduce, motivate and even fascinate others through his personality, his presence, his speeches or his attitudes. It is not a science but rather a feeling which varies according to the individuals, the situations or the cultural environment.
Charisma is also the power to build trust and convince others. Charismatic people have a particular relational ease.
Thanks to a high level of emotional intelligence, they seem adopt the right attitude and always move forward regardless of the context and circumstances. In fact, they inevitably arouse the admiration of their fellow human beings.
To increase your personal charisma and maintain your persuasive force, you can train yourself to activate the three registers of persuasion identified by Aristotle from the 4th century BC. These are the word (logos), the person (ethos) and the emotions (pathos).
The art of speech
the logos is persuasion by reasoning. This is about the clarity of the message, the logic of the reasoning and the accuracy of the examples used.
Concretely, it is about make yourself understood when we speak in public or in a meeting with a clear, simple and useful expression. You should only give information that serves your message: facts, figures, examples …
Make your speech as fluid as possible by connecting ideas to each other to create a narrative progression. Emphasize the end of your sentences to avoid the impression of floating and use times of silence to give more weight to your words.
A presence that we notice
THE’ethos is the credibility that the speaker inspires in his audience. It is the persuasion that flows directly from the personality of the speaker. Indeed, we first tend to believe people we respect.
A charismatic person is someone who can be felt vibrate when he speaks. It gives off a presence and an inner energy. It arouses respect, trust, commitment. She knows how to recall values and she knows how to make sense of her.
To reinforce the meaning of your speech, stand up straight with your heels firmly planted on the ground. Look people straight in the eye and always maintain an open and welcoming posture.
Knowing how to create emotion
The secret of charisma also lies in the art of arousing emotions at the others. It can be pleasure, sadness, surprise, fear or joy. The goal is to create an emotional bond to make others want to follow you to hear the rest of the story …
the pathos is the emotion that the person speaking manages to arouse in the audience. It is a question of finding means or artifices to captivate the public by appealing to their sympathy, their complicity and their imagination.
By using pathos, you don’t just engage your audience’s emotions, you mostly allow them to identify with your arguments, of project yourself into your speech. The most effective way to do this is to storytelling by telling a personal story that illustrates the point you are trying to convey.
Daily training to increase your charisma
You can develop your charisma even if you are introverted, shy and reserved. It won’t necessarily wow everyone at first, but it will at least gain the respect of your group.
Of course, knowing these persuasion techniques is a necessary condition but not sufficient. It also takes a lot of practice to gain ease and practice.
Get into the habit, in your daily life or at work, ofexpress what you want, what you see, what you feel. Challenge yourself ! For example, accept to replace your colleague in the facilitation of a meeting or present a project in front of two or three people able to give you feedback.
