According to a new study, 90% of women consider kindness to be the most important character trait in a potential partner.
“I can defend myself against wickedness; I can’t defend myself against kindness”, said the actor and humorist Francis Blanche. And it seems that this is also the case for many women. According to a study published on the website keyspecialized in sexuality, nearly 90% of women consider kindness to be the most important character trait in their future lover.
By asking 64,000 women from 180 countries what they were looking for the most in a future partner, researchers from the University of Göttingen (Germany) noticed that kindness came far ahead of support (86.5%), intelligence (72.3%), education (64.5%) and self-confidence (60.2%). Another significant criterion for respondents looking for a serious relationship: the desire to be a mother. Thus, for 46.1% of women, the desire for children weighs heavily in the balance when it comes to choosing someone to settle down with.
34% of French people consider financial security to be essential
Regarding money, Japanese women are the most attached to it (66.7%), far ahead of French women who are only 34% to have answered yes to the question “is financial security very important for choosing a ) partner?”. “Kindness is a bit like gravity, essential but little noticed until it’s gone.
Today, given the importance placed on looks and wealth, it’s surprising that kindness is one of the most desirable traits in the world. But kindness is the key to the human ability to create long-term social bonds, so essential to our evolution. Without those connections and that kindness to get us through the inevitable tough times, we wouldn’t have survived and thrived,” said Virginia J. Vitzthum, Clue’s director of scientific research and professor of anthropology at the University of Indiana in the United States.
Ethnic, religious or political origins are only essential for about one in five women. Finally, regarding physical characteristics, it would seem that, for both heterosexuals and homosexuals, a nice smile and beautiful eyes are the most attractive. And if the size of the penis comes third in the physical criteria for heterosexuals, more than one person will be surprised to learn that most of them prefer a medium-sized phallus to a large one.
Next are short hair, large hands, an attractive back, muscular arms and facial hair. Gay women, on the other hand, favor medium-sized breasts, a medium-sized behind, a nice back and then long hair.
“Better understand what matters to women”
“What people want from a partner has fascinated researchers and laypersons alike for decades. The Clue Ideal Partner Survey is unique in that women around the world – of all sexual orientations and all stages of life – have allowed us to better understand what matters most to them. This allows us to paint a very differentiated picture of women’s preferences for long-term and short-term relationships.”
An interesting study at a time when we know that nearly one in five French people is currently registered on a dating site where only photos and possibly a few sentences inform us about the person who “faces” us.
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