Understanding the obstacles responsible for falling asleep in your intimate life (fatigue, stress, laziness or other blockage) allows you to set the record straight. Talk about your expectations, your desires, your frustrations too: communication would be the watchword of Alain Héril, sex therapist. “You have to explain what you like and what you don’t feel like doing, which sets off a sensual storm or makes you downright impatient.” Take every opportunity to “talk about it”, when the kids are busy, when you get together for dinner alone or during a nap in the cool shade … , the right words often give good ideas!
Set yourself the goal of shaping a sensual, tailor-made universe for yourself: it is an effective way to maintain the envy of the other. Especially for men, according to Alain Héril, who would be anesthetized by the “super male” model. Take the time to talk trifle and explore intimacy for two.
Buttocks
Men like to caress those of women … And theirs? We also linger there by massaging them, by touching them, by exerting circular pressures starting from the fold at the joint of the thigh and going up along the muscle.
The diamond
Between the hips and just above the buttocks is a diamond pattern where the skin is very sensitive. Caress, massage and lick it to stimulate the muscles of the buttocks and lower back.
Toes
In Luis Bunuel’s film “The Golden Age”, a young woman languidly sucks the toe of a statue. Why not try ? You will see, your partner will not remain indifferent. Again massage the inside of the foot by exerting circular pressure with your thumb and going up towards the toes that you would stretch gently.
