Pride prevents you from having empathy and putting yourself in the other person’s shoes, making everything perceived as a personal attack. As a couple, this type of character can therefore be particularly difficult for the partner to live with.
- A person who has pride has an excessive self-esteem which leads him to put himself above others.
- In a romantic relationship, this character can become a real poison, especially because the partner can never give a contrary opinion and can feel the feeling of not being on an equal footing with the other.
Pride comes from pride and selfishness that pushes to protect oneself by positioning oneself above others to have an illusion of control. In a couple, it can be a real poison.
How does pride take over in a romantic relationship?
If at the start of the relationship passion causes love to filter the way we look at each other, gradually their faults appear, and in particular their pride. The more the spouse will lack confidence in him or her, the more pride will take over, especially in the case of a narcissistic personality.
On a daily basis, this translates into the impossibility of expressing a contrary opinion, the impression of never knowing or knowing things sufficiently in relation to him or her, but above all of suffering his anger without ever asking for forgiveness.
How to stop this pride in the relationship?
Above all, it is up to the person concerned to become aware that their behavior prevents their fulfillment in the couple and leads to their erosion. Once the will to change is present, the spouse must accept that vulnerability is not a weakness but on the contrary that it is possible to have empathy and humidity in the relationship with others. Work on self-esteem and emotional management is also fundamental to learning to control oneself and to apologize without feeling inferior.
In the end, the proud spouse will find benefit in all areas of their life, even beyond their relationship.
Learn more: “Couple communication: Beyond emotional intelligence; More love less conflict; Couple self-therapy” by Gary Love.
