The children who monopolize our attention, the professional responsibilities which monopolize our thoughts, the vagaries of life (unemployment, illness) make us forget the time when we only thought of the other.
The solution: multiply the moments spent together, without children or friends. Minimum? One evening per week, one weekend every two months or one week every six months.
Your sex life is not fulfilling you, but you dare not tell your partner. For fear of upsetting him or hurting him. Suddenly, you want less and less. Sometimes you force yourself and fake yourself. But most of the time, you tell her that you don’t have “the head to that”: you are tired, stressed, busy …
The solution: talk about your expectations, your secret desires, your frustrations and all the sores you usually ignore. And in bed, it’s the same! Your partner can’t guess everything, so dare to let them know what you like.
Your avoidance strategy is in place: you wait for the other to fall asleep before you go to bed, you get up earlier than him and you run away from one-on-one. Error: specialists say it, sexuality is a powerful engine of the couple. Do not let it disappear from your life: even if your relationship is stable, it may weaken it.
The solution: go all or nothing. It’s all penetrative sex. Nothing, the absence of sex, but also of caresses, kisses, tender gestures. By rediscovering together the pleasures of the in-between, you will see that they revive desire.
Your lack of desire weighs on you. You tend to dramatize what is happening to you, to feel guilty. A real vicious circle! So preoccupied, you can no longer go to bed without asking yourself: is he going to try this evening? I can’t push him away for the third time …
The solution: let go. Divest. Let yourself go. Pillow fights, guilis sessions and other playfulness can help you find a spontaneous side. The game is an excellent introduction because it lets us lower our guard and makes us laugh …
When nothing works, it may be more serious problems. Significant stress, trauma or marital conflicts can explain these blackouts of desire. You may then need to see a sex therapist, psychotherapist or marriage counselor. They will help you pinpoint what is wrong …
