June 7, 2019
Getting rid of a narcissistic pervert is far from easy. The victim often finds it difficult to leave because she has become a prisoner of her relationship and the narcissistic pervert presents himself as innocent. The latter often accuses his victim of exaggeration or even of being in denial. So how do you get rid of a narcissistic pervert? Here are several tips for controlling the breakage.
Recognize the manipulation process
The narcissistic pervert uses different manipulation techniques to trap his victim. He begins by identifying his weaknesses by listening to him attentively. If you tell him about your moments of doubt and your fears, he can use them against you later. He will then idealize his victim while being aware of his weaknesses and his lack of self-esteem. He will compliment her on her physique and will repeat over and over again how good the victim is. It will continue like this until you get the other person’s complete trust.
Once this confidence is gained, he will slowly begin the destruction. Difficult for the victim to immediately understand what it is. The narcissistic pervert can begin with criticisms of the personality or the physique. The destitute victim will question himself and feel stupid. However, she will not question the narcissistic pervert right away, still admiring his clairvoyance. The narcissistic pervert thus manages to make the partner his puppet, while making sure that his game is well hidden to prevent anyone from realizing it.
Break up with your partner
The first reaction that victims have, when they realize that their partner is a narcissistic pervert, is to want to change that person in order to save the relationship. However, even if you are completely dependent or are afraid of his reactions, which is justified, know that breaking up is the best solution, if not the only option for survival. The narcissistic pervert can indeed accentuate the threats and hurt you more.
To break free from the grip of a narcissistic pervert, it is essential to sever all contact. Avoid answering their messages or calls. What’s more, give up revenge for revenge would be useless. After the breakup, take some time to rest. Even if life is meaningless to you anymore and you wonder if you’ll be able to trust someone again, evacuate and start from scratch before taking stock. Try to resume a social life, whether by doing an activity or a sport that you enjoy. If you feel depressed or can’t get over this separation, do not hesitate to look for a psychoanalyst in order to rebuild yourself step by step.
Stephanie Haerts
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