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What if, instead of complaining, we choose to celebrate our successes? The atmosphere would probably be a little better. To less grumble, it would therefore be a question of choose happinesswhatever the circumstances.
“What matters is our ability to decide to live the present moment serenely, with its vagaries,” comments Christine Lewicki, author of the book. I stop moaning. Let’s not forget to give pleasure all the place it deserves and give ourselves little moments of happiness. We will have less opportunity to dwell on what is wrong. And, icing on the cake, we will also be healthier!
Get started with mindfulness meditation
Mindfulness is a simple and accessible first step in meditation: whatever activity you practice, all you have to do is devote yourself to it fully, focus on it and the sensations it provides. , without letting his thoughts wander on anything else (like our usual ruminations). This “centering” helps to slow down the often too fast pace of our activities and to find a dose of peace and serenity. Find out here how to get started in 5, 10 or 15 minutes a day.
Stop dramatizing
When we groan, we often have tendency to exaggerate or dramatizer. “It is therefore very important to realize to what extent our emotions, our frustrations and our doubts come into play, emphasizes Christine Lewicki. Very often, our “interpretation” is far from the facts…” Hence the need to choose well his words, their impact on our lives and those around us being crucial. Because, once pronounced, these negative judgments “take shape in our daily lives”. Caution, therefore.
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Identify your reflex groans
We all have one! An automatic complaint that keeps coming back in our mouths and triggers for nothing, like “I’m tired” or “I’m going to be late”. The idea, at first, is to become aware of it and to concentrate so as not to repeat it again. “If necessary, make sure to relieve your frustration, advises the coach. If you suffer from being late, force yourself to leave ten minutes earlier.”
Measure your words
When we groan, we often have tendency to exaggerate or dramatizer. “It is therefore very important to realize to what extent our emotions, our frustrations and our doubts come into play, underlines Christine Lewicki. Very often, our “interpretation” is far from the facts…”
Hence the need to choose your words carefully, their impact on our lives and those around us being crucial. Because, once pronounced, these negative judgments “take shape in our daily lives”. Caution, therefore. And why not learn caring communication?
Take an interest in others
Stop! Let’s stop focusing on our little self and think about the best way to help people around us. It is about using our talents to put them at the service of others. Let’s sit down for a moment and ask ourselves what contribution we wish to make to life. “When we make the lives of others better, we lose all reason to complain, because we feel useful”, says Christine Lewicki in her book. Self-sacrifice can radically change daily life..
Do not hesitate to ask for help : between private life and professional life, we are not always able to cope. So, rather than ruminating in our corner or shouting in the desert, let’s start by asking for help by affirming our needs, while being open to negotiation. Making a specific request is not giving an order. It is always “nicer to encourage others to help us rather than trying to force them”, recalls Christine Lewicki.
