The arrival of a child can upset the couple’s libido.
Whether due to fatigue, childbirth, pain or lack of self-confidence after pregnancy, sexual desire may remain at a standstill for several weeks or months. Although this loss of libido is frequent, it is not inevitable.
How to regain self-confidence after childbirth?
In addition to the pain felt, bleeding, and hormonal changes after childbirth, body modification can lead to a loss of self-confidence. The “perfect” image of the mother after the birth of her child, sometimes conveyed by the media or the family, can clearly make matters worse.
Finding a positive self-esteem helps to get through this sometimes difficult period for yourself and your couple. Patience and forbearance are therefore essential. Taking moments of relaxation and rest, without forgetting moments of tenderness and love with your partner, gradually allow you to start a new sex life.
How to find your intimacy as a couple?
The new life with a baby can be very overwhelming and make you forget the couple’s intimacy. To promote balance, it is important to maintain the relationship with privileged moments one-on-one.
The family or the nannies can be asked for a romantic dinner, or a night without a baby from time to time.
When should you be worried?
It is considered that after 6 months without sexual intercourse, it is necessary to ask questions about physical or psychological difficulties in connection with the arrival of baby and childbirth. A caesarean section or episiotomy scar, joint blockage or lack of lubrication may require treatment with a midwife, gynecologist, sex therapist or psychologist.
Find out more: “Desire after baby” by Maryse Dewarrat, Eyrolles editions.
