How to set an example for your child during difficult times?

From a young age, children observe and imitate adults, especially their parents. In difficult times, they scrutinize how their parents handle challenges and conflicts, and then model these behaviors in their own lives.

Your child imitates you

From birth, your child considers you as his main source of discovery and learning. He observes you attentively and imitates your gestures, your words and your behaviors. This process of imitation allows him to develop his own skills and to understand social norms.

For example, if you are calm and patient when faced with a stressful situation, he will learn to deal with his own stress in a similar way. On the other hand, if you lose your temper easily, he may do the same thing, thinking that these are acceptable reactions.

The impact of your behavior on your child

Parents’ behaviors impact not only children’s actions, but also how they think and feel:
• When you share with others and use polite words, your child learns to be courteous and generous.
• If you are rude or aggressive towards others, he may believe that it is acceptable to behave in this way.
• If you make up excuses for being late, your child may conclude that lying is an acceptable option.

Being aware of this can help you adjust your behaviors to better transmit positive values ​​to your child.

Being a role model for your child doesn’t mean being perfect

It’s equally important to show your child how to handle mistakes and failures. For example, if you yelled in anger, take the time to apologize and explain to your child how you will handle your emotions differently in the future: “I yelled because I was really upset. That wasn’t the right reaction. Next time, I’m going to try taking deep breaths to calm down.”

In this way, you show him what humility and responsibility are, while giving him the opportunity to manage his emotions healthily.

Learn more: “Talk so kids will listen, listen so kids will talk” by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.